We all believe in causes, some causes are so special to us that we personally contribute everything we can in order to help those causes… However, just as you believe in some cause as you find it ‘right’, rest of the world doesn’t have to agree with you or echo your feeling of the righteousness of the cause you believe in; one simply cannot expect others to become card-carrying members of their cause or ‘ism’ just because they believe in it. Feminism too is one of those ‘isms’, other one being atheism!
Before I begin, let me first clarify that I do not wish to dissect or analyze either feminism or atheism; the purpose of this write-up is only to showcase that there can be causes which people believe in and wish to personally contribute everything they can to help those causes other than those two isms, viz. feminism, atheism. It is high time the flag-bearers of those ‘isms’ realized that they have to coexist with the people who do not believe in their causes without bullying them.
On a day when flag-bearers of ‘feminism’, in my opinion, should naturally be concerned about response of the All India Muslim Personal Law Board (AIMPLB), whose legality itself is questionable, to the Supreme Court in connection with the ongoing matter on the ‘tripple talaq’ issue, they are rather obsessed with the #ReadyToWait campaign, triggered by a few devotees of Lord Ayyappa of Sabarimala.
The AIMPLB has told the SC that “Personal laws cannot be challenged as violative of Part III of the Constitution.” It further said that “When serious discords develop in a marriage and husband wants to get rid of wife, legal compulsions and time consuming judicial process….in extreme cases husband may resort to illegal criminal ways of getting rid of her by murdering her. In such situations Triple Talaq is a better recourse.” The AIMPLB also told the apex court that “Marriage is a contract in which both parties are not physically equal. Male is stronger and female is a weaker sex. Securing separation through court takes a long time deters prospects of remarriage.” A fool like me would like to think that this is enough for a feminist to wage a war against AIMPLB, but far from hearing the news of a war being waged, I am yet to hear a word in solidarity with the courageous petitioner Ishrat Jahan.
One may understand the deafening silence of religious feminists (they may exist even as all religions are misogynistic), what really baffles me is the silence of godless variety of feminists, i.e. atheist feminists… They were missing in action even as their heroine Trupti Desai unsuccessfully tried to enter the Haji Ali Dargah, they were, however, quite supportive of Desai when she successfully entered the Shani Temple. So while they may not have any reaction to offer on AIMPLB’s take on ‘triple talaq’ that of course is not true for #ReadyToWait campaign.
I used the example of AIMPLB’s stand on ‘triple talaq’ only to expose the hypocrisy, Hinduphobia, and agenda-driven attitude of self-proclaimed feminists, including those godless variants! They feel rattled as women devotees of Lord Ayyappa ask them to stop being their spokespersons. Do these feminists, including their godless variants, consider themselves the chosen ones, i.e. prophets, appointed to be saviours of women and redeem womanhood? Why can’t they digest a simple fact that the women devotees of Lord Ayyappa of Sabarimala who are #ReadyToWait for his ‘darshan’ are capable of taking a decision for themselves? And who are they to dismiss their resolve as regressive? Who decides what’s regressive after all? It is, of course, none of my business to tell feminists to take up causes!
To sum up, why do feminists, including the godless variants, expect women devotees Lord Ayyappa of Sabarimala to give a damn when they themselves are screaming from the rooftops that they don’t care what those women devotees think?
PS: There is no ban on the entry of women devotees in any of the Ayyappa temples; in Sabarimala, there is a restriction on the entry of women of a particular age group, in accordance with the shastras, to the temple during Mandalam, Makaravilakku and Vishu seasons. If you’re not a believer, why exactly do you wish to trespass into the temple and bully those who are #ReadyToWait?